what i’ve learned from the movie “UP”

Have you seen this movie!? If you’re not tearing up in the first ten minutes of this movie, then you’re not human.  I’m just going to come right out and say it. I mean, seriously!  I’ll try not to spoil it for you but Pixar really tugs on the heartstrings with this one.  Here’s the […]

defining unconditional love

“To give and not expect return that is what lies at the heart of love.” – Oscar Wilde I’ve talked about it a lot, but what exactly is unconditional love? Merriam-Webster defines unconditional love as “love without limits”.  That’s a little vague for me, but here’s what I know. When we have children, we provide everything […]

publicly displaying affection

There is a proper way to display affection in public.  This is not it. Wait.  Are those two chicks??  er…I’m just going to save this on my desktop.  You know what, nevermind.   Anyway. As I mentioned, there are right and wrong ways to display affection in public, and I’m here to sort it all out for you.  […]

don’t wait to resolve issues

I know you won’t admit it. I also know you’ve been thinking about her all day and it’s killing you, but you’re both stuck at work and nothing can be done until tonight. I’ve been there all too often.  In fact, sometimes I’m there when I don’t even have to be because I have a […]

ask sabatino – finding closure

Taken from the “Ask Sabatino” portion of this site. Dear Sabatino: My question is about moving on. In your mind, what is the best way to move on. It has been 9 months since my last relationship ended, and I still miss him every day. I think it’s bc we never had good closure. He […]

a dream of love

I had a dream about you last night. It’s all a little fuzzy now that I’m awake, but last night it was so real.  Like, I could hear your voice, smell the shampoo in your hair, and feel your breath as you whispered in my ear.  It was almost as if you really were laying […]

the secret handshake of love

What if you could pick up the girl of your dreams just by shaking her hand? Wait! Wait!  Hear me out! I know this is going to sound absolutely ridiculous, especially to all you women, but I swear this works.  At least, in my experiences it has worked- and I would give it a success […]

ask sabatino- proper date attire

Dear Sabatino: I am recently divorced and have been trying to talk to this woman at my job for months. She finally agreed to go out on a date with me.  I’ve decided to take her to a local Tapas Bar here in town, but it’s been a long time since I’ve been out on a […]

resolute to love

I’m coming for you. Unfortunately, 2012 has been the year for heartache in my life.  I had some small relationships come and go, and some loved ones pass on- but this year, I won’t accept anything less than you.  Prepare yourself, I’m coming for you. While many of us make resolutions in the new year, to me, 2013 […]

a new year of love

Welcome to the year 2013! Remember all those futuristic movies from the 70’s that depicted the 2000’s as a century where everyone wore tight shiny jumpsuits and they all had sex with each other telepathically?  No?  Maybe it’s just wishful thinking on my part. 2012 was NOT that year.  However, we are in an era of skinny […]

midnight love

New years eve can be the ushering in of new and exciting romance, or the countdown to loneliness. Hopefully for you it’s the former. When you’re single, New Years Eve can be either exciting or a complete bust, and it all comes down to the final seconds.  I mean, when making a wish list, locking […]

let love manifest

Can I tell you a secret? I sometimes have a bad habit of pushing love. The truth is, you can’t force love.  You have to let it grow and manifest itself.  You have to slowly build it like you’re building a strong foundation, one block at a time- and sometimes while you’re hard at work, […]

la petite mort

The French are so romantic. La petite mort, or “the little death” is what the French use to describe an orgasm.  I’ll let that sink in for a minute. However, it can also be used to describe a time in your life of loss, when you feel like a little part of you has died. […]

be the man in your relationship

Be the Don Draper in your relationship. You know, without all the womanizing, scotch, and cigarettes. Okay.  You can keep the scotch. But seriously, why are men not MEN anymore?  I’m not talking about the beer chuggin’, bar fightin’ men, but the kind of men who aren’t afraid to stand up for what they want and […]

happy christmas, baby

Happy Christmas.  I love you, baby. Christmas is maybe my favorite time of year.  For realz. There’s just something about it- like this mysterious energy that makes the entire world buzz and gives you that tingly feeling all over. …Like that “I’m too excited to sleep” feeling. …Like that “drink too much wine and see how […]

knowing when to walk away

Taken from the “Ask Sabatino” section of this blog: Dear Sabatino: I have been married for six years, but I have fallen completely out of love with my husband.  Sometimes I think the only reason I stay is because I don’t know if there’s anyone else out there for me and because I never thought this would happen […]

yours until the end of the world

If you’re reading this, then the world has not ended yet. As I was sitting in my chair, drinking brandy and contemplating the possibility of worldly destruction, I began to think about all the things I’m really thankful for in my life.  Family, friends, my future soulmate, etc… Of course, there is so much more.  […]

love in the bronx

It’s over between us. No, no baby, it’s not you, it’s me. A new relationship is maybe the most amazing feeling in the world.  EVER.  But before every new relationship begins, a previous relationship must end; and that can make anyone bitter.  However, knowing the right time to let go can help you through this turbulent transition. Ever noticed […]

where you’ve been and where you want to go

This had me thinking about you all night last night. Yeah, I know, I’m a sap for old love songs from back when times were different and relationships actually meant something. What’s my point? Well, this got me thinking about my previous relationships; all that I had given to make them work, and what I […]

I wish you enough…

Tonight I was browsing through some of my favorite blogger’s posts and came across a blog called Simply Plaid I don’t normally like to repost other writer’s work, but this story was so moving to me.  Please read on, and if you like it, please hop on over to Simply Plaid and let them know […]

the perfect gift for the perfect woman in your life

If I bought you a sexy Mrs. Clause outfit, would you wear it for me? I’m totally serious.  There’s just something about a woman dressed as Mrs. Clause that does it for me. As I’m sure you’re aware, the holiday season is in like 8 days, and if you’re anything like me, you haven’t even […]

you guys are amazing

Are you kidding me?? A Hot Cup of Love has only been up for a week now and there is already so much to be grateful for.  I started this blog because, as a man, pouring your emotions out to your friends at a seedy pub usually puts yourself on the receiving end of ridicule.  Romance and love have always been […]

um yes, let’s make out

The stuff trashy romance novels are made of. Or at least usually how they start and end, with a lot of crazy stuff in between. You’re at a party. You catch eyes with a woman from across the room and there’s instant attraction.  You saunter over and introduce yourself in your best Barry White voice.  “Good […]

food love

They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. This is completely accurate.  However, did you know that like 90% of women love a man who can cook?  Okay, so I may have made up that statistic, but seriously, chicks dig men who know their way around the kitchen.  Take it from me, […]

when is love not enough?

My entire life has been built on love. But at what point is love not enough anymore?  I recently had this discussion with a friend of mine who is in the process of questioning her own relationship- which in turn caused me to reevaluate the past thirty years of my existence. I suppose I’ve been very […]

i pine for you

I don’t know how to say this but I’m crazy about you. You are completely remarkable.  I mean, I don’t know if I’ve ever really met anyone like you.  Furthermore, I don’t know if I’ve ever felt this way about anyone.  Sometimes I just want to whisk you away to somewhere warm, and spend hours […]

A nice segway from my “social media love” post.

Saw this and had to reblog it. Jessica outlines it perfectly.

social media love

I’ve always said I’m much more interesting in text. It is for this reason that I find the various types of social media are the perfect venue for meeting women.  I know what you’re thinking, that’s kind of creepy- but it’s not like that at all!  First of all, I look much better in a controlled atmosphere.  […]

he’s one of the great ones

Dear Sabatino, My younger sister just got married to a really great guy.  They only dated for a year before getting married but she told me she knew he was her soulmate after three dates.  I am 32 years old and have been in both long and short relationships, though I have never felt that any of them were ‘the one’. How […]


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a toast- to love

Love is… …timeless. I mean, I’m talking about pure, uninhibited, romance. The kind that makes you feel like your heart is beating out of your chest and creates that knot in your throat like your necktie is too tight. I’m talking about the first time you realized you had feelings for a girl and it […]