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he’s one of the great ones

Dear Sabatino,

My younger sister just got married to a really great guy.  They only dated for a year before getting married but she told me she knew he was her soulmate after three dates.  I am 32 years old and have been in both long and short relationships, though I have never felt that any of them were ‘the one’. How do you know you’ve met your soulmate?



Hi, Amy!

I’ll be the first to admit, this isn’t my strong point.


Looking for love can sometimes be like trying to find a needle in a haystack.  While it seems the majority of relationships are pursued in dark pubs or the local cafe, it’s important to realize that certain atmospheres attract certain people, and may or may not be the best place for you to cultivate a strong partnership.  If you’re not finding one of your “great ones” at the bottom of a Pinot Noir bottle, then maybe it’s time to start looking elsewhere- or dare I say, stop looking altogether.

They say love happens when you least expect it, so why are you expecting to find it?  Rather, try putting yourself in situations for love to find YOU.  That’s right, the only work this requires is for you to have fun and enjoy yourself.  I believe that we all have soulmates out there. I say soulmates, as in plural, as in more than one, because I believe there are a whole group of people out there that are perfect for you; some more than others.

My advice is to find a few social circles to get involved in and make sure whatever you’re doing is something you really enjoy.  Instead of seeking out Mr. Right, let your happiness and natural fun attitude act as a lure to reel him in.  When you’re doing something you’re passionate about, you are more confident and secure in your surroundings.  These qualities act as a beacon to those around you.  Not only will you increase your chances of attracting love, but your family and friends will also start to see a positive transformation in you- and the energy from that can be dynamic.  Best of luck, and I look forward to hearing how it goes!


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