I am recently divorced and have been trying to talk to this woman at my job for months. She finally agreed to go out on a date with me. I’ve decided to take her to a local Tapas Bar here in town, but it’s been a long time since I’ve been out on a date and I don’t know what I should wear. I don’t want to be too dressy, but don’t want to look like a slob. What would you recommend?
First dates and impressions are super important, so I’m glad you’re taking your attire in to serious consideration. I think the first step is to consider the mood you’re trying to set. If it’s cool and casual, then your clothes should present that and likewise if it’s romantic and formal.
Also, consider where your date is taking place, you don’t want to be overdressed for the location. I love the idea of a tapas bar because you can order a few small dishes and split them, without looking like you’re eating a whole bunch, and usually they’re relaxed settings great for conversation. We have a local tapas bar here that I use frequently for first dates. It’s a little classier than “jeans and t-shirt”, but not formal enough for a suit. I usually show up with a nice pair of jeans, button down shirt, no tie, and a nice pair of ‘dressy shoes” (You can tell I’m no fashionista). The combo says relaxed, but clean.
Now, lets talk jewelery. Lately I’ve been seeing a lot of guys accessorizing with too much jewelery- that was odd for me to even type. Here’s how I see it on a first date: A watch is acceptable, and maybe even encouraged, but make sure it goes with your look. Don’t wear a super fancy watch with jeans, just don’t. Don’t wear rings. Your class ring from 1998 is absurd and unattractive. A small chain around your neck is acceptable, but keep it tucked in your shirt. Stay away from heavy necklaces- she’s in to YOU, not Mr. T. and I pity the fool who thinks otherwise.
Hats. ugh. I dislike hats on a first date unless you’re going to a ball game or a hoedown. You may keep women around with your charm, but you win them with your eyes. Let her gaze.
Facial hair is a toss-up, really. I think in your situation, the safe bet is to wear your facial hair like you would for work. So if you’re clean-shaven at the office, be clean-shaven for her until she says otherwise. If you are a member of ZZ Top, then maybe you should keep the beard- just promise me you’ll brush it.
I think that covers most of the basics. If you have any other questions, please ask, because I’m sure I left something out. Good luck, Jared! Any of you women want to weigh in on this?? What are some of your first date turn on’s and turn off’s? I’m sure Jared would love the advice.