the secret handshake of love

What if you could pick up the girl of your dreams just by shaking her hand?


Wait! Wait!  Hear me out!

I know this is going to sound absolutely ridiculous, especially to all you women, but I swear this works.  At least, in my experiences it has worked- and I would give it a success rate of roughly 85%, which may not sound too promising but honestly, when you’re looking for companionship you’ll try anything.

So you see a girl at the bar, you’ve taken a liking to her, and you’re looking for a way to break the ice.  Tell the bartender you would like to buy her next drink and to let her know you sent it over. When she gets the drink, if she has any class, she’ll smile, wave, and thank you.  That’s simple enough.  Now go introduce yourself with confidence, like meeting a new client at work.  Smile, eye contact, and a firm hand shake.  The first two come standard, but here’s the important part- the secret handshake of love.  Don’t tell anyone!

The handshake starts out like any normal handshake- open palm, thumb pointed to the ceiling, inviting, and not rigid.  You grasp their hand firmly, because a firm handshake is a sign of confidence.  Don’t hold their hand any longer than you would an important client and make sure you look them in the eyes, and smile.  Now here’s where we separate the men from the boys.

As the handshake is coming to a close, and your hands begin to pull back, slightly -and I emphasize ever so slightly- begin tilting your hand while still grasping hers so that your palm is now facing the ceiling and your thumb is pointing to the right.  As your hands continue to retract, allow your fingers to curl up and graze her fingertips.  That’s all there is to it.  So, how does that help me, you ask?

The theory behind this is that the handshake, eye contact, and smile are all very common forms of greeting, thus women find it less threatening and more comfortable.  Though she may not be aware of it, while your fingertips slide past hers, you are actually sending a subliminal message to her brain that you’re interested in her.

Don’t believe me?    Try it next time you’re out and let me know how it works out for you.  As I mentioned, I have had success with this, so it’s not complete bollocks.

16 comments on “the secret handshake of love

  1. I really like your honesty and your dediction to finding that special someone. 🙂

  2. I feel like I wouldn’t be able to pull this off without being extremely obvious and awkward!

    • You’re right, Christian. It can be tricky and if you’re not careful you’ll just come across as a weirdo. It’s not a magic trick though, so every move should be made with genuine intentions.

  3. There really may be something to this! In my line of work, I am constantly shaking hands, and even just in a strictly professional context, I am always left with such an impression when someone has a good handshake. Definitely a subtle skill that when executed effectively, projects a great combination of confidence and finesse.

    • I agree! Ever have one of those “dead fish” handshakes? Yeah, you know what I mean. That’s the worst! What is your impression of someone who offers a limp, cold hand?

      • Well it’s one thing if it’s cold, but it’s another if it’s limp. In cold weather, I’d totally understand if someone happens to have cold hands. But when it’s limp, it’s almost like, “Okay, what was the point?” Doing anything half-heartedly is just setting yourself up for failure, right?

  4. I don’t know if you can find love in a bar, but, I agree: handshake+eye contact= good first impression…everybody say it: there’s no second chance to give a first impression.

    • I would agree with you. I’ve had much more luck meeting a girl in a book store or a coffee shop. First impressions can be killer if you don’t take them seriously. Thanks for reading!

  5. I might be needing some suggestions 🙂

    • I’ll be happy to help any way I can! At the top of the page there’s a tab called “Ask Sabatino”. That will send your question to my personal e-mail instead of putting it on the site- you know, for privacy reasons. Thank you for reading!

  6. If I were in the market, I’d say definitely cool. Fingertips and all. Thanks for the like. C’mon over and leave a comment sometime, Sabatino.

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